One thing I’ve been noticing from going out lately is that the hottest girls I end up making out with or number closing usually aren’t in the set when I open..
 
What happens is I go up to some girls who are maybe 5’s to 6’s, and chat with them, get them giggling, etc. From there, a hot girl, maybe an 8-9 walks up and introduces herself to me. Believe it or not, a lot of hot girls roll with less attractive girls. From there on you already have the group’s comfort and appreciation so it is easy to isolate the hot girl from there.  Just two weeks I had rolled up to a couple less than attractive girls and said “You seem fun, I just had to say hi.” We were chatting back and forth, when a hot 8.9 came up. I started doing some dance spins with her around, and within a minute said “Your legs are tired, my legs are tired; Let’s go sit at that booth.” I took her by the hand and led her to a booth away from the others and we started cuddling. Within minutes, we were making out and I got her number. She’s still calling me back and we’re setting up a meet soon. 
 
Now could this have worked had I waited until the 8.9 was already in the set? Of course. But I’ve found it to be far easier to attract a girl if you hit the set before she arrives. You’ve already won over her friends at this point. Even if you haven’t won over her friends it can still work well if you’re already in the set. Some months back, I went up to two girls who weren’t that interested, and a third girl came up who was interested. She stayed behind when her friends left and we ended up making out at the bar. 
 
On a more general note, you should be playfully bantering with all types of women, and guys as well. Throughout your day, you should be bringing joyful interactions to as many people as possible. The fat ghetto girl serving you at Burger King? Make her smile. You don’t have to outright flirt of course, but just a little playful misinterpretation can help the day. 
 
Also by talking to as many people as possible you can sort of “neg” the girls you finally legitimately approach. If you only go up to hot girls in a bar, the girls around you notice that you’re gaming. However if you’re talking to one legged girls and random guys all around the bar, when you’re finally going up to the hot girls, they assume you’re just being social and that It’s not a full blown approach.

About The Author – Dan Tolumbro is a dating advice coach for men at: http://www.pickupmastery.com.

With millions of single people trying to find their match over the internet, it is often hard to stand out among the crowd unless of course you have the body of Eva Longoria or Brad Pitt.
  
And we can’t all have Hollywood looks. (This is perhaps why some people resort to editing their photos on Photoshop in order to appear good in their profiles!)
  
Still, there are ways to make the most out of a free online dating site and make others take notice. The secret is to initiate action and to not just wait for people to view your profile and get to know you. Below are some tips that can help you make the most out of your online dating service account whether it is for free or not.

 1. Make a Vavavoom profile!
 
Making a profile that is interesting and inviting does not mean that you have to invent some exotic name and out of this world experience. You and your life can be interesting too with just the right words. One advise is to write down things about you that is interesting. Do you have an interesting job or an interesting hobby? Have you gone to places and done things that may seem exciting for other people? 
 
Include it in your profile. As much as you can, veer away from cliché statements that are often seen in profiles in online dating sites. It can be tiring to see the same things written profiles. You can also include some funny stories or anecdotes that can serve as hook to your audience. This will make them remember you more. 
 
Also, make sure that your profile is grammatically correct. Not only will this be an easy read for people but you will also come across as educated and refined. 
 
2. Upload a nice photo
 
This does not mean that you will be putting photographs of your pretty cousin or your gorgeous brother on your profile. Search through your albums for a photo that you feel shows the best side of you. Often, the best photos are those where the subjects smiles widely. This is inviting for those people who are reading your profile. 
 
Also, make sure that the photo that you upload is clear and distinct. If you are only putting some hazy shot with you meters away from the foreground; might as well leave it blank. Use a photo, which other people can see and study. 
 
If you think you don’t have much photo that is worth uploading, enlist the help of your friends and relatives. As much as possible, put a solo shot. If you don’t have one, make sure that your caption can identify who you are in a group shot.
 
 3. Break the ice 
 
Using the online dating service does not end in writing a profile and uploading your favorite photo. Try to also search through the hundreds of singles for people who interest you. Once someone catches your eye, let him or her know. This is all done virtually so being rejected is not really as painful; so what the heck, take the plunge. 
 
You can try writing a letter that states how you like their profile or what aspect of their site has caught your eye. Put on the letter your name. This makes the letter more personalized and more inviting for the person being sent to. 
 
If you are too shy to actually write a letter, try putting a smiley sign or just plain hi! If the person you sent it to likes your profile, he or she will respond back with a hi. Be as polite as possible as some people who do this come across as potential stalkers such as those that write the words “destined,” “soulmates,” or “love.” 
 
Remember that your letter is your way of making a great first impression so be on your best behavior.

About The Author – Dr. Nathalie Fiset is a family doctor and a certified hypnotherapist. For more information go to: http://www.soulmatestogether.com/personals.html

Now, in order to find out if you love someone, the basic place to start would be to ask yourself, do you want to be with them? If the answer to that question is no, then it really can’t be love. When you love someone, you want to be with them. Not just be with them, but share everything with them.

You have a great day at work and want to rush home and tell them every wonderful thing that has happened. You feel excited at the prospect of just being in their company, just being close to them isn’t enough, you want to be a part of them, a part of their life forever. You can’t stand the thought of being away from them yet, when you are, you still feel that ever-present bond that ties you together wherever you go. You can almost feel what they are feeling. You feel like, with a little bit of effort, you can see what they are seeing and think what they are thinking. It is almost as if you both can occupy each other’s bodies with complete trust and harmony. That to us is love.

Now, on the other side of the spectrum, there are a host of emotions that people confuse with love. One of the most common is lust. There is a difference between wanting to sleep with someone and wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone.

Being overly dependent on the other person is also not a part of love. Some people fall into the trap of thinking they love someone just because they are afraid to be alone. They have become dependent on the other person for so much that they don’t know how to make it on their own, or they would much rather be with someone than no-one.

This leads to the old cliché, in order to love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself. Well, we’ve all heard that before, but what does it really mean? It means that you have to be confident in your own ability and your own judgment. You really have to like yourself and know what you have to offer another person. There is no way that you can love another person if you are so stuck in your own hang-ups that you bow down and propitiate to the other person. That is, you do anything they ask and agree with everything they say out of fear that they will love you less because you don’t do those things.

Basically, the question of whether or not you are in love with someone is pretty cut and dry: you either are or you aren’t… and deep down, you know the answer. You just have to trust yourself to recognize it.

A few months ago me and my husband had a friend of ours stay with us during the month she was here. Me and my husband had sex with her several times. I had a wonderful time but now my husband wants to do more of this and I’m not sure. Does this mean I’m not enough for him anymore? I’m scared he’s going to go out and do this alone. I don’t know what I should do.

Any advice would be appreciated.

_________getting her to agree to it

One way to convince her to have sex on film is to drop very subtle hints and make her think that she came up with the idea. For instance, you could comment on what a jerk Rick Solomon was for releasing Paris Hilton’s video romp and mention how you would never dream of doing that if you two made a movie. Let her connect the dots.

Another way to persuade her is by making it seem innocent, unplanned and spontaneous. Just casually have a video camera handy, drink a couple of glasses of wine together and see if she goes for your proposition. If she says “no,” then don’t push her on it. Just let the idea take root in her mind and she might eventually come around.
 
 Essentially, to make this happen, you must convince her of two things:
 1- No one else will ever see it
 2- She won’t look bad on camera

_________make her come around

Her possible objections could be the result anything from a negative body image to an overall hatred of porn. Here’s how to respond to them.
 
If she says: “You’re a pervert!”
You say: “I’m just trying to explore your kinky side with you and it will be intensely fun, not gross.”
 
If she says: “I’m gonna look fat.”
You say: Reassure her that she’s beautiful and you’re turned on by everything about her body. Offer to re-shoot the video if she’s unhappy with the way she looks. Hey, that will even give you a second chance to film her in bed.
 
If she says: “You will show your friends.”
You say: “Are you crazy? I would never dream of doing that, and besides I wouldn’t want my buds to see my pecker.”

_________choose your equipment

First, you must choose your camcorder. Digital is excellent quality that won’t deteriorate, but it’s easily copied and can be distributed limitlessly on the Internet. If decide on a digital camera, make sure you have enough memory and battery life. You don’t want to find yourself needing a replacement battery or memory card in the middle of the production.
 
Lighting is also vital, but simpler to handle. Use ceiling-lit lamps to provide decent, low-impact lighting. Don’t use night vision. It’s not aesthetically advantageous for the woman (her breasts won’t look as good).

_________get the right angle

Now a few words about angle and perspective. “First-person” view is when you hold the camera and just film her, like most of the Tommy Lee and Pam Anderson videos. This hides your face from being seen and focuses most of the attention on her, a good choice if you fancy a career in politics someday. And let’s face it, as men, we’re not really interested in seeing ourselves naked anyway.
 
If you can’t deal with shaky camera handheld work, a tripod can’t be beat. You certainly don’t want your sex tape to give you motion sickness.
 
And if it won’t kill the mood, do some test shots first to figure out which angle makes her look best. Now’s the time to apply the “knowledge” you’ve learned from all the porn you’ve watched in your life.

_________how to make the video hot

Sex scenes are always hotter when the woman interacts with the camera. Get her to talk about what she likes sexually during the video. Get her to open up a little bit, have some fun. Also get her to make eye contact with the camera. There is no greater turn-on than a sexy woman staring right into your eyes (even if it’s on a TV screen). 

Get her to dress up in a sexy outfit and strip for the camera. If she’s up for it, it’ll add heightened anticipation and excitement to the experience.
 
Try to give her an orgasm on-screen. If she is at all nervous or embarrassed about being filmed, this could be more difficult than normal. Just take it slow and do your best to make her comfortable and it should happen.

_________avoid the wrong hands

Showing your new creation to your buddies might be tempting, but it’s extremely unwise. If your friends even find out you have a private video, one of them may betray you and search for it at some point.

Here are some safety tips you can follow, which will also serve to ease her mind on the matter:

_________the new national pastime

It seems everyone who’s anyone has made a very public, amateur adult video these days. With big-name celebrities like Paris Hilton, Pam & Tommy, Vince Neil, and even Fred Durst appearing in bootleg triple X-capades, it’s no wonder couples are filming their most private moments more often than ever.But unlike them, your video is going to be for your eyes only, and you won’t cash in on it. Unless that’s what you both want…

In closing we would like to know if you have ever made your own erotic home video and if so how did it go? By the way, happy filming

1. Clumsiness

You don’t have to be a Casanova — smooth, suave and completely at ease — in order to be a good lover. But a few elbows in the head, maybe pinning her hair to the bed, and knocking foreheads or teeth can indeed put your more pleasurable antics on hold. But just like a singer on stage or an actor in a play, when you stumble and make a slip, you have to keep going without hesitation and delay. Push through little mistakes. If you don’t dwell on the negative, she won’t either. If you fuss about your accidental bumps, she’ll definitely be put off. Keep the mood unbroken and your bruises and scrapes the proud war wounds of incredibly hot sex.

Bodily functions

It’s happened. After a meal, some drinks, carbonation… and voila! Some excess air starts building in pressure and it has two options: going up or down. Burping near her, in her mouth while kissing is something to avoid, and so is letting go of some noisome stomach pressure down below. Still, when it’s an accident, all you can do is laugh about it. Women will appreciate your joking nature. Funny noises during sex are common. When you think about it, most sounds we make are grotesque, but everyone makes them, so they’re forgivable. Even little miss hottie underneath you writhing away makes noises that are less-than-pleasant sometimes. So, crack a joke — and maybe a window — and go back to giving her a great time.

Inappropriate comments

You can tell that you’ve made a mistake when that cricket screeching in the background is the only noise that’s heard after you tell her something you think is particularly sexy. When she doesn’t know how to respond to your dirty talk or when she takes offense to what you say, do not respond aggressively or reciprocally. Don’t get upset. Continue to soothe and state that you are just talking dirty for fun. However, it is best to switch your use of profanity to descriptions of how she’s making you feel, what she feels like to you, etc. You can still use imagery artistically to create that erotic environment where she feels a little wild and free to talk back.

Revealing a fetish

Reveal too much too soon and you’re in trouble. A second date is not the time to break out the toys, ropes and videos. Be sure of your safe reception. Revealing personal details too soon can ruin the potential of a developing relationship. Treat fetishes like a relationship topic. This kind of discovery does not occur until much later within the confines of a stable relationship.

She may ask, but unless you are certain she knows enough about you and about herself to support this kind of knowledge, you are risking to be ridiculed and meeting the end of a possible sexually experimental connection. If you have to tell her about your secret stash of homemade porn, break it to her gently and assure her you won’t progress to that stage until she is ready and feels secure, if at all. The object is to make her feel respected and safe knowing you will understand her wishes to either experience your fetish with you or pass on it.

Crossing her boundaries

If you cross a line, such as trying anal without asking and waiting for her consent, be prepared for her refusal and maybe her hasty exit. Trust is the biggest issue. She is vulnerable during sex and trusts you to value her boundaries. If you find that you have made some blatant transgression, don’t make a huge deal out of it or move your hands or position to a completely new spot. Just stop the offending action in a smooth transition to another more pleasurable activity for her.

Finishing too soon

If it’s been a while, don’t let her know. She’ll know enough when you secretly make her “one-minute man” list. Though it would be perfect sex to make her experience shattering multiple orgasms that have her screaming in pleasure, it may have felt too damn good for you to hold back. Coming quickly isn’t something you want to do all the time, but when you do, don’t apologize. Instead, play on her vanity as an exceptionally sexy woman — one that made you lose all control. Say something like, “Wow, you are too hot, I just couldn’t hold it in any longer.” This way, she’ll take your premature ejaculation as a compliment whereas, if you apologize, she’ll see it as a flaw. To make up for your quickie performance, give her the best oral of her life until you regain your upright stature.

Taking too long

Here’s the opposite of the above problem. Some men, like some women, take a little too long to orgasm. Women may feel numb — and even sore — after a while of continual pounding, and men may feel like a robot. A great solution would be to discontinue the action under an acceptable guise such as a bathroom break. When you return, it will be easier for both parties to move on from there. If she feels guilty about you not getting yours, let her know she can get you back at any opportunity.

_________don’t dwell on mistakes

Mistakes and blunders will be part of anyone’s sexual life. What matters is how you recover and move on. You can save any night from ending prematurely by using your wit and charm. Don’t dwell on mistakes and keep the laughter going. Transition smoothly between blunder and bliss, and she won’t remember anything but the explosive and utterly addicting end.

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Americans are among the worst — if not the worst — negotiators on Earth. Interestingly, there seems to be a lot more negotiating outside of Western Europe and North America than inside. Why? Supply and demand. Our very own incredibly efficient economies have made negotiating slackers out of us. We don’t bargain at Wal-Mart because there’s a Target just down the street. When Target has a lower price, it’s good-bye Wal-Mart. Why don’t we negotiate in the West? Because we have feet!

Americans are among the worst — if not the worst — negotiators on Earth. Interestingly, there seems to be a lot more negotiating outside of Western Europe and North America than inside. Why? Supply and demand. Our very own incredibly efficient economies have made negotiating slackers out of us. We don’t bargain at Wal-Mart because there’s a Target just down the street. When Target has a lower price, it’s good-bye Wal-Mart. Why don’t we negotiate in the West? Because we have feet! WIN-win negotiating is mandatory so be sure to read our full article on the next page.

Win-win negotiation is mandatory. Why? Because the other side doesn’t die when the negotiation ends. They survive the talks. That changes everything. Win-win negotiating isn’t a matter of altruism, morality or ethics. I practice it and preach it for one simple reason: It’s the only thing that works. It’s the only way to pursue, conclude and maintain rewarding agreements.

Any serious discussion of win-lose negotiating is ridiculous nonsense, for at least two reasons. First, the other side won’t let it happen. They’re not stupid, and they’re not likely to sit still and play victim for you. Not for long, anyway. Second, even if you were somehow able to hose them, you wouldn’t get away with it. The other side wouldn’t rest until they found a way to get even. In the end, both sides would lose.

How do you do win-win? It’ll take most of this book to fully answer that question, but here’s the abridged answer: You give the other side concessions. You already know that concessions are the way we “buy” agreement when persuasion fails.
Concessions may be the sine qua non of haggling, but how can we make them without giving away the ranch in the process? From here on in, to get what you want, you’re going to have to trade for it.

_________trading tips:

1. The big “if”

Negotiation isn’t about giving, it’s about trading. When the other side asks you for something, get in the habit of saying, “yes, if” instead of “yes” or “no.” Spell out exactly what you want in return.

I’ll agree to X… if I get Y in return.
I’ll agree to X… but then I won’t be able to do Z.

2. Wait for it

Never waste a concession. If the other side wants something but you can’t immediately think of an appropriate “if” to request in exchange, just skip it for the moment and move on to something else. Never force a bad trade — or worse, give a freebie — because you can’t think of the right thing to ask for in exchange. Before the negotiation is over, you’ll almost certainly think of something else you wanted from the other side — and when you do, you’ve got your “if.”

3. “You owe me one” doesn’t count

“You owe me one” (or “I owe you one”) is a sorry excuse for a real “if.” Concessions are like cars — as soon as you drive them off the lot, they start losing value. The instant your counterpart puts your concession in her pocket, it loses all of its bargaining value.

4. Don’t say “no”

Try to avoid saying “no” — literally — to the other side. An unvarnished “no” instantly turns a dialogue into a monologue. Instead, use a Japanese “No” whenever possible. It helps to avoid hostility and it keeps the negotiation moving forward.

For example, instead of saying “no” to a piece of business you really don’t want to do (too risky, too small, not profitable enough, etc), say “yes” to it, but at an unacceptably high price. The other side will surely reject your proposal (because it was their choice, not yours), but without loss of face. I guarantee that if you negotiate long enough, someone will accept one of your Japanese “Nos.”

5. Every request is an opportunity

When the other side requests something from you, it’s not a problem; it’s an opportunity to get a concession in return. In time, you’ll be thrilled when your counterparts utter those delightful words, “I need something from you.”

6. Even-steven isn’t necessary

There’s nothing that requires negotiators to make equivalent concessions. Always try to get an “if” that’s equal to or greater than the value of the concession you’re offering. If necessary, ask for multiple items in order to get the value high enough. If the concession you receive is larger than the one you gave, you’ve done well.

7. Logic isn’t necessary

There needn’t be any logical relationship between the concession that the other side wants and the one you ask for in exchange.

8. I’ll try

If you’ve said you’ll try, you have an obligation to try — genuinely. If you can’t obtain the requested concession, you have a responsibility to explain to your counterpart what actions you took and why they weren’t successful.

Be skeptical of an “I’ll try” from the other side. Ask for a firm commitment that kicks in if their “try” fails: “I’ll do my best, but if I can’t, I’ll do X, Y and Z instead.”

9. That “if” isn’t just decoration

Don’t forget that if the other side rejects your “if,” she/he also rejects the concession you were offering. When you say, “I’ll lower my price from $2.25 to $2.13 if you increase your order by 5,000 units,” and she/he says, “No” or “I can only increase my order by 2,000 units,”  your price — technically at least — stayed at $2.25.

10. You can use the same “if” again and again

If the other side rejects your proposed “if,” you can use it again:

BOSS: I need that Boingo report on Wednesday.
YOU: You’ve got it, if I can have those two vacation weeks in July that we discussed.
BOSS: It’s out of the question. And I need the Frammis contract by Tuesday.
YOU: I can do Frammis by Wednesday if I can have those two weeks in July.
BOSS: What about the Boingo report?
YOU: Boingo and Frammis on Thursday for those two weeks in July.
BOSS: Wednesday.
YOU: Wednesday afternoon.
BOSS: Deal.

11. Gimmies

Some things are simply unworthy of trading. They’re “gimmies.” Trivia, good manners and common courtesies are not the stuff of trades. “I’ll tell you where the bathroom is if you give me X, Y and Z” won’t do.

12. Expand the deal

You may not be limited to the issues currently in play. Get your nose off the negotiating table and look around. Could the relationship between parties be expanded? What else do you have that they might want and vice versa? Always be on the lookout for more stuff to trade.

13. Nonmonetary concessions

Every bit as interesting as monetary ones (such as price, item, quantity, feature, contract term, minimum, penalty), nonmonetary (also known as soft) concessions are often far easier to obtain. Here are a few examples:
 

• Referrals to other divisions or interested third parties.
• Warranty, service, quality, and delivery guarantees.
• Intellectual property rights (software data, derivative products, copyrights).
• Training and documentation.
• Assistance in testing new products.
• Non-hire and non-competent provisions.
• “Last look” opportunities for future bids.
• Financial performance hurdles and options.
• External triggering events.
• Options to do — or prohibitions on doing — things at future dates or under defined circumstances

_________the power is yours

Neither market forces or computers can produce the original, subtle intermingling of interests that a good negotiation can. Only humans are capable of the sudden insight, the intuitive leap, the ad hoc measure, the makeshift arrangement, the spur-of-the-moment decision, the bold move or the masterstroke. Humans alone experience the warm satisfaction of mutually flexing positions and trading interests to reach agreement, of weaving high-payoff/low-cost creative options into a final deal. 

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Double Dare (+10 points): Hide a naughty surprise between the layers.
 
HOT FOR HIM:
Dare (10 points): Play “Twister-in-the-Buff” with your partner, just for laughs. Anyone who fails must remove one article of clothing before continuing.
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EXTRA-SPICY FOR HER:
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